I am what i art
by Fadwa Al Qasem
it's going to be a good day!
It's been a tough year. We moved to Spain to be with my elderly parents in November 2020. My uncle passed away earlier, and my dad passed away in Jan 2021, my aunt few months after, my mom in November, and one of my best friends in Dec. And two of my sisters in law lost their fathers as well.
Creating balance was tough; between being there for my mom and mourning my dad. Giving her hope and feeling drained myself. Getting on with life in a new country and feeling like there's not much life left. doing my best to steer conversations with my mom away from medicines and doctor appointments and possibilities of spending time in the hospital - which we did, three times over a period of nine months. My husband and I did our best. We made her laugh occasionally, we took her out, we cooked for her and gave her space to cook and stay independent. In the end, she was too heart broken after dad passed away. She left. And I was left with a big hole. And finally I could truly cry for the loss of my dad, too, because I was afraid of crying too much in front of mom.
Mom turned 81 in October 2021. My sons came from Canada and we celebrated her birthday with her. Dad would have been 96 i n December.
On 31 Dec, I decided I needed to follow my own advice. To live while I was alive. Loved ones would not want to see you sad all the time. I bought a thick spiral calendar and I marked out everything I wanted to do this year. Color-coded days for different activities, keeping in mind that I will fall off the wagon, I gave myself space to do so with grace.
And so, I share with you my plans and my journey, in the hope that they will inspire you, and in the hope that you will share your journey, too.
You can expect long blog posts!
Seven Aspects to Wellbeing
These are the aspects I intend to look after, develop and nourish. I'll be sharing thoughts, insights, ideas, things I've discovered and found along the way.
Next on my reading list:
What are you reading now? Or planning to read soon? Have you read any of the books above?
Until next time,